Working with my ex

by Anon

I am working with my ex narc, which makes going No Contact at all very difficult indeed.

And I never understood why he treated me like he didn't know me - I was devastated: I stop eating, I called out from work ...

I really thought he loved me and I fell in love with him and part of me still want him, even knowing what I know now I still miss him.

It just makes it that much more difficult to cope and 'get over him' because I see him all the time at work. It's hard to move on, even though I know I have to for me, for my own sake and sanity.

Since I cannot go No Contact completely, I try to keep my distance and be professional at work regardless of what has happened and how I feel.

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Jan 26, 2016
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by: Anonymous

I, too, am in a similar situation to you. I must continue to have contact with my abuser even though I know that "no contact" is best for me emotionally.

We used to own and operate a business together. We also still own a house together and for financial reasons, we won't be selling it until this summer.

I do not expect him to be cooperative during that process and I recognize that he will treat me like he has since our split - like I don't exist.

I can only hope that the stress of having to sell the house together (many of my belongings are still there) won't be too devastating. Sometimes I wish I would just walk away from the property, but my name is on it, so I feel stuck in much the same situation as you are in.

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