Research!!!

by sam
(Ireland)

Doing the research on domestic violence and abusive relationship, and learning to recognise the warning signs: both for spotting a potential abuser and for recognising whether your previous abuser is changing or not.

After doing the research, and realising we are not at fault, it suddenly all makes sense. Just understanding how abusers think and feel and what they believe, and talking to others who have been through similar experiences. At some point the penny drops and we are able to see them for who they are/were. And doing the research into domestic abuse helps us to see what happened more clearly.

As much as it hurts inside to go through the research and realise just how taken in we have been, it is far better than the bruises on the outside!