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Personal Domestic Violence Stories 1
This page is devoted to all the wonderful brave people who have shared
their domestic violence stories, feelings and experiences to help
others.
These survivors had the strength to live through the Hell which is
Domestic Abuse, the strength to fight it and break free, and are willing
to help others in similar situations to realise that there is light
at the end of the tunnel, there is hope and there is freedom.
If you would like your story included on this page, please send it
to me at contact@hiddenhurt.co.uk. Thank
you.
Please also note that unless otherwise specified, any poem,
story or other writing for publication on Hidden Hurt may also be
reproduced in Kindle e-book format or hard copy at some stage. Unless
you specifically specify otherwise, copyright will be assumed by Hidden
Hurt.
Please also not that there is now a second page of personal domestic
abuse stories here!
Ava's
Domestic Violence Story - "I keep thinking
if I just stopped and looked I would've seen the signs and could
have ran away before it got to the point of being too scared
to even leave the house. But of course, hind sight is a wonderful
thing and all I saw was a good looking, sweet and loving man
whom I was lucky to be dating."
Julie's
Domestic Violence Story - Julie's domestic violence
story comes from a very brave woman, who despite still
being a current victim of abuse, still thinks and cares
enough about other domestic abuse victims to want to tell her
story and warn them.
Nola's
Domestic Violence Story - Nola's domestic violence
story shows just why abuse victims stay in abusive relationships,
or why, having managed to leave once, they can find themselves
back together with their abuser again ... hoping this time it
will be okay even though the warning signs are still there.
Bonnie's
Teen Domestic Abuse Story - Bonnie was only 13
when her teen domestic abuse started. She came from a supportive
home and had her life planned out and dreams. But her reality
soon turned into a nightmare of teen abuse, sexual and physical
violence, threats and stalking
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Jeanne's
Domestic Abuse Story - "I feel sorry
for never reporting the domestic abuse to the police. Rape,
violence, confinement, threats with weapons, death threats,
stealing and destruction of property. I think he would be
in jail for a long time if I had reported him. But I think
it's too late. There is no proof other than the little bit
of pain left in my heart from the years I wasted with a monster,
caged in a n abusive relationship."
Harriet's
Domestic Abuse Story - Harriet's story starts
like so many other with only ocasional violent attacks which
she is able to ignore for the progress of the family, But
over time the controling and jealousy became too much and
the violent attacks to severe to be ignored any longer.
Zena's
Child Abuse and Domestic Violence Story - Within
the first few years of her life, Zena experienced both child
abuse and domestic violence, as well as witnessing domestic
violence between her mother and her partner. This is Zena's
amazing story of all that happend, the emotional and physical
harm she experienced as a consequence and finally her couragous
journey towards healing.
Lorna's
Physical Violence Story - It was only 1 month
before Lorna's physical violence story started. Lorna was
only a teen, living at home, only narrowly escaping being
murdered at the hands of her boyfriend. And yet Lorna returns
to the violence.
Faith's
Domestic Abuse Story - I thought I had met
the man of my dreams; he seemed perfect, but now that I am
no longer with him. I see that there were red flags from the
day one, but I chose to brush them aside, biggest mistake
ever.
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Giulia's
Physical Violence Story - "Everywhere
I went he would insist on being there and if he wasn't I'd
have hours of hell. Every penny I earned, I had to spend on
him or on things like household items for our future. Friends
were not allowed and neither were my plans for the future."
Renee's
Domestic Violence Story - Having spent her childhood
surrounded by domestic abuse as a norm, it took many years
and many bruises for Renee to realise there was another way
to live. Now a confident survivor, Renee has written a book
about her experiences and survival.
Tiffany's
Child Abuse and Domestic Violence Story - Tiffany
tells her story of child abuse and domestic violence, a sexually
abusive father and mother who failed to protect her, further
molestation in her teens and a domestic violence relationship
Margaret's
Domestic Violence Story - Margaret's story
started when she was just a child witnessing abuse herself
and took her through two abusive relationships as an adult
before she came out victorious and with a firm belief the
God had led her and her children to safety.
Valerie's
Physical Abuse Story - After knowing this man
since youth, Valerie soon found that she didn't 'know' him at
all. He changed from the friend she'd always thought she had
into a manipulative man who couldn't care less about her (or
their newborn son's) welfare. |
Lisa's
Emotional nd Physical Abuse Story - Lisa's
Story of emotional and physical abuse leading to self-harm starts
with a man who forged his own background to emotionally manipulate
her into helping him - to her initial detrement, but finally
realising this was not "her Fault"..
Rhia's
Domestic Violence Story - Rhia tells this dometic
violence story not for sympathy but to point out that you never
know what the one thing in your life is going to be that changes
you and everything you believe.
Selena
Domestic Violence Story - Selena thought the
whole domestic violence story would come to an end once her
partner had left, but it didn't. Years after trying to find
an abuse free life, she is still having to walk around with
a panic alarm.
Fran's
Domestic Abuse Story - Fran's domestic abuse story
started when she was 15. This was Fran's first real relationship,
which turned out to be an abusive relationship including serious
violence which almost cost Fran her life.
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The long-awaited book from our very own Steve from the Hidden Hurt Message
Forum as finally arrived!
THE JERK RADAR
Have you ever gone out with someone who seemed perfect at first, but ended
up being a nightmare? Do you find yourself falling in love but ending up feeling
disrespected and used? Would you like to make sure that something like that
never happens to you (or someone you care about) again? If so, this book is
written for you. There are lots of books about how to tell if you're in an
abusive relationship. This is book will keep you from getting into one in
the first place. Jerk Radar will help you see how a Jerk takes advantage of
common cultural expectations and romantic myths to blind you to his true intentions.
It will give you concrete ways to test out his intentions in the course of
a normal conversation. And the Jerk Radar Quiz provides an effective tool
to screen every partner for Jerky tendencies well before obviously selfish
behavior emerges. Full of true stories from abuse survivors, Jerk Radar pulls
no punches in exposing what Jerks do and why we fall for it. This is a useful,
down-to-earth, practical guide to avoiding a bad relationship instead of recovering
from one. Read it today - it just may change your life!
To order in the US: Jerk Radar: How to Stop an Abusive Relationship Before It Starts
To order in the UK:Jerk Radar: How to Stop an Abusive Relationship Before It Starts
Steve McCrea, MS, has worked for over 20 years with survivors
of domestic abuse and their children. He has participated in many local collaboartive
projects on domestic abuse, and has provided community trainings on working
effectively with domestic abuse survivors. He currently works as an advocate
for children in the foster care system. He has volunteered for the past 9
years as facilitator for an on-line abuse survivor community, whose members
contributed most of the stories in the book.
Gemma's
Domestic Abuse Story - Gemma's domestic abuse
story is one that could be echoed up and down the country. The
clues that the relationship would turn out abusive were there
from the beginning, but hope drew Gemma in and shame kept her
from leaving even after the situation had turned violent. Here
Gemma shares her experiences for other women who might believe
it is not really serious abuse.
Hidden
Talents - Jena, at 13, wrote the following
account of the hidden talents she found living with abuse and
standing up to her bully for a school talent show.
Nadya's
Teen Domestic Violence Story - Nadya's teen
domestic violence story starts when she was born, not into an
abusive home but to parents who did not really know how to make
her feel loved and valued. This lack of emotional support left
her more likely to find herself involved in an abusive relationship
as a teen.
Shelley's
Domestic Violence Story - "I used to tell
him that arguments don't have to turn violent, and that it isn't
normal, and he would always say that I was doing it again -
wanting everything done my way, and get angry again. He always
said I was twisting things and a manipulative girl, but I never
realised he was the one manipulating me. ..."
Mark's
Domestic Abuse Story - Elequently and in great
detail, Mark looks back on snapshots of his marriage, carefully
documenting the abusive relationship in which he found himself
trapped, his thoughts and feelings both towards himself and
his wife. A must read.
Part 1: An Introduction
- "In my mind what you are holding is a work of fiction.
It has to be. Nothing so horrific, demeaning and fundamentally
humiliating could ever happen in any real relationship, could
it? ..."
Part 2: Conwy
- "There was nothing beautiful about the way in which
we remained together. People talk about matches made in heaven
and love at first sight. It was as if we had been placed together
to demonstrate to our respective families and friends, and to
those people who became involved in our five year connection,
of how not to lay a solid foundation for the rest of your life.
This was a destructive attachment centred around her insecurities
and my inability to free myself from her."
Part 3: Glenfinnan
- "One can say that men cannot be raped due to the
probable inability to gain an erection when undergoing that
kind of ugly abuse. Whatever the speculative thought process
may reveal, I cannot get passed the fact that I did not want
to have sex. I think that I have been raped"
Part 4: Wales
Part 5: Peterborough - coming soon
Tanya's
Domestic Abuse Story - "He knew that he
was the first boy that I had ever loved and used that fact to
his advantage. He was the person who painted a picture of what
love was suppose to be, because before him I was closed off
to any emotion that would make me vulnerable. He was my vulnerability
and I listened to everything he said and took it as truth. ..."
Amelia's
Domestic Violence Story - " The main effect
of this violence was that I started to change - I stopped being
myself. I would avoid any conversation with friends when we
were out that would have anything to do with my life before
him, I didn't look at or talk to other men."
Abigail's
Story - A young Christian Woman tells her personal
story of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship
and her road to healing and recovery.
Evie's
Story - Domestic Violence and Prostitution - From
a shy withdrawn 19 year old meeting what appeared to be an older,
wiser man, this incredible woman charts her descent into domestic
violence and forced prostitution and the turning point to finally
breaking free and having a chance to find herself.
Louise's
Story - " We were only together 10 months
yet it feels like it lasted a lifetime ..."
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Children
witnessing abuse : Daisy's Story - After she'd
witnessed her step-father physically abusing her mother, Daisy
found herself being abused by her brother. She explains how
she and her sister were tricked into consenting, and how they
finally ended it.
Ruth's
Domestic Abuse Story
Hainvg been recently widowed, Ruth was an easy target for
someone who then financially abused, phyxially and sexually
assaulted and abused her for the newt 7 years.
Sarah's
Physical Abuse Story - Little did Sarah know
that the boy she had admired growing up would provide her with
her very own physical abuse story. Here are Sarah's words as
she charts her descent into and then back out of the trap so
many of us recognise.
Lacy's
Emotional Abuse Story - "Whenever he would
scream, insult me or curse at me he would tell me it never happened,
even right after it happened. One day he used the F word at
me for using a metal spoon on a pan. ... He swore he never yelled
or cursed at me.."
Lash:
Children Witnessing Abuse - "The violence
towards my mother had started before I was even born, but I
can only seem to remember from when I was 7 years old and onward.
That's probably a good thing."
Thomas'
Domestic Violence Story - Betty always had
an unpredictable and spirited personality, but I and most of
our friends thought it was one of her endearing charms. A few
months after Derek was born, Betty's endearing spirit started
to turn scary.
Christine's
Domestic Violence Story - Christine tells her story
of domestic violence, going back to her first abuser after he
had spent a spell in prison for assaulting her, finally leaving,
only to find herself in another abusive relationship
Kirsty's
Story - In a new town, lonely, Kirsty meets the
'perfect man', perfect, that is, until the night he tries to
kill her. This is her story, a story in which the mix of physical
violence and drugs and alcohol leave Kirsty fearing she will
never see her mother or sons again.
When
you are Family of a Domestic Abuse Victim - "There
appears to be very little advice and support for the people
witnessing the destruction and poison caused when seeing a loved
one in an abusive relationship. This story may well appease
the frustration and angst family members may be feeling."
Freya's
Story - As a 16 year old girl, Freya found herself
in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. Here
she tells her story of how quickly she got hooked in and how
difficult it was to leave.
Danna's
Physical Abuse Story - "In most cases
people say it started in a regular pattern, not with me. I
would be sitting on the sofa and for no reason be smashed
across the face from nowhere, no reason, no answers, just
left to deal with my tears."
May's
Emotional Abuse Story - "I thought that
because he never actually hit me (he just threatened to if
I didn't shut up), that it wasn't classed as abuse. I've always
been afraid of him, so I've worked myself and our 4 children
around pleasing him in order to maintain peace."
Mandy's
Domestic Violence Story - Domestic violence is
possible even if you are still a teen and not actually living
together with your boyfriend. As Mandy found out to her own
cost and that of her unborn children ...
Emma's
Story - " You'd never pick him out as
an abuser, he was small built and never got into fights and
everyone who met him thought he was a sweet guy. ..."
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Ange
and Brian's Story - " This is the story
of Ange - my wife, Me – Brian and how we came together
from opposite sides of the world and how Ange was able to get
out of a hell that was her life." (PDF)
Carla's
Story - a really touching story of Carla as a child
witnessing and being implicated in her stepfather's abuse. For
all those that think the kids aren't affected ... read this!
M.P.'s
Story - abuse can hit at any age ... MP, now in
her early twenties, shows how a confident 17-year old found
her self-esteem eroded as the abusive relationship progressed
and shares with us her determination to rebuild her life.
Anna's
Story - ... "I never once realised that I was
suffering from domestic violence thinking that it was only related
to physical not mental abuse ... "
Sadie's
Story - There IS Life after abuse! - "I was
in an abusive relationship that lasted for 21 years. By the
time I left I was barely functioning. I thought I was crazy.
Now, six long, hard, incredible years later not only have I
managed to survive, but I have also found contentment, my soul
mate, and, most importantly, myself along the way. There IS
life after abuse. This is my story ... "
Hannah's
Story - " ... I want some people to hear
my story and hopfully this will help people understand it's
a long road out but in the end there is light if you let it
in ..."
Charlotte's
Story - The punching started on the first anniversary
- the first of many in six years of mental and physical abuse
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Belinda's
Story - The story of a middle class Jamaican girl
suffering 9 years of brutality told with clarity, honesty and
much courage: "I saw the first sign of jealousy only
one week into our relationship. I was flattered, a near fatal
mistake. ..."
Becky's
Teen Abuse Story - "I am still 16 years
old but I know I have learned the biggest lesson in my life
and I know from this boy I will not be taking any hassle off
any boy again. Please follow in my tracks and stand up for yourself
..."
Isabelle's
Verbal and Pysical Abuse Story - "It started
in 2010. My ex-husband who had been cheating on me had moved
out. My mom had passed away and I was seriously depressed. It
was just then that an old boyfriend from college contacted me.
We started talking on the phone and stuff (he lived very far
away from me), and I went and visited him. After that we ended
up dating again."
The Christian woman whose spirit is being
crushed by domestic violence is faced with a unique burden. She needs
straight answers - not unrealistic expectations or stereotypical platitudes.
"Woman Submit!" by Jocelyn Andersen provides straight answers
and clear scriptural direction.
To order in the US: Woman
Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence
(also available for Kindle)
To order in the UK: Woman
Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence
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Kiara's
Story - married to an abuser for 5 years, Kiara
gives us an insight into how it feels, not only to live in an
abusive marriage, but also the condemning attitudes of other
people, including people from her own Church.
Vella's
Story - a touching and terrifying story from a
courageous and caring survivor who found that emotional and
mental abuse can and does lead to pure evil violence and even
murder.
Rachel's
Story - from a normal boyfriend/girlfriend to battery
and intimate rape, recovery and reaching out to help others,
this strong and loving survivor shares her experiences and feelings
with us. From the authoress of Aphrodite
Wounded, an excellent informative and personal website on
Intimate Rape.
Jay's
Story - written by a very brave 13-year old who
is just starting on the road to healing following a childhood
of witnessing the abuse of her mother and brothers and suffering
violence at the hands of her father herself.
Intervention
and Knowledge - After being raised in an abusive
household and then suffering 10 years of further abuse in her
marriage, this brave survivor stays determined to continue the
battle for freedom ...
Joanne's
Story - with honesty and clarity this brave survivor
details the path she travelled into an abusive relationship,
the struggles and emotional hurdles faced in finally leaving
and starting on the road to peace.
Allison's
Story: A Bed of Thorns - " I know when
it began, only, I don’t know why. I remember the first
time like it was yesterday. I can still see his face; see the
anger and hatred etched upon it. It happened so fast. I never
saw it coming. I learned a lot then. I learnt to notice the
signs. I learnt to do as I was told. That was how I learned
to walk on egg shells – it’s an art that must be
mastered. Only I could never quite master it, not to his standards
anyway ..."
Lost
the Battle but Won the War - this is the awesome
story of one women and her experience of life in Ireland
from the fifties to the present day, from early abuse as a child
through an abusive marriage and the abuse of the legal system
set up to protect her, culminating in her final escape.
Recovering
from Marital Rape: a Personal Journey - "It
was three years since I had last been assaulted, I had gone
over and over everything, knew all the facts and stats and jargon.
I thought I had worked through it and largely 'got over it',
and yet this experience made me realise that in actual fact
I had not really healed at all, was nowhere near 'over it'."
Varda's
Story - "I suffered 17 years of violence
of all forms, my children were also victims of physical and
mental abuse ... then one day he went too far ..." |
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